First of all, thanks to all of you who have commented so far on my race dilemma. You've given me more to think about and that's a good thing. One specific comment to answer Estelle's question. We chose our donor because he was the perfect donor for us in terms of personality, expectation, and (this is going to sound bad) teeth. I had to have major orthodontics as a child so when I asked him how many years he spent in braces to get such beautiful teeth and he said none, the deal was sealed for me. You can read more about how we chose our donor and Julia's conception here and here.
If you're interested in more discussion on race, this is a post from Peter's Cross Station that was recently brought to my attention again. I found it thought-provoking when I first read it, and now that I look at it again, I think it definitely resonates with what I'm concerned about.
(The following is a private note to Laurie R. posted for everyone to see)
For heaven's sake, when I teased you about stalking me, I certainly didn't mean for you to stop! And would it kill you to leave a comment occasionally? I mean, sheesh!
Finally, for those of you who read The Speckled Frog: I will be taking the link to that blog off my profile. It's not that I don't want people to read the blog, it's just that I want to put a little space between it and this one. So, if you go to the blog via your own bookmark or just because you have the url memorized, this won't affect you. If you've been using my profile to get there, you have until this afternoon. You can always email me for the url if you don't have it by the time I cut the cord, as long as you don't seem freakish I'll give it to you. One suggestion: when asking me for the url, don't mention your Julia shrine or anything else that might suggest baby-snatchin' behavior.